Me? I am Different

sum ==>>> yee prevails ! It IS  the SUM ==> YEE equation.

Perhaps SUM does not know that when I write or communicate with him that I care more that he understands what I wrote than I care that he has a different opinion of it.  If all he says in effect Me? I'm different! then the feeling "I wasted my time" shows up.  Perhaps the solution of that dilemma is to show somehow that he understands or groks what I am saying & then expresses his difference within the context I have provided or shows how his own context relates to the one I use. I personally am willing to do the same, but it has to start somewhere, eh?

I am beginning to consider making contrary interchanges expire for the sake of defusing the RWG &/or RWP
<==> is better


DRINK UP!

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Comments


Seth says
MR 2014-03-24 11:02:14 17215
While I was re-editing the original I wanted to get klein bottle pic from a different group. I did so but when I tried to submit (edit) again it said I was not OK so I went back to the other tab & re-signed in & came back, but it objected but finally I got it to take but it had made a new item by then. wierd. It broke the old link & I fixed that.

Well i like your new edited message much better .

Mark de LA says
I re-edited the item to clarify a bit & suggest what might work. The HUH? response shows up to me as laziness to comprehend or try to do so; especially when I have taken pains to explain the subject at hand. A hmmmm.. response might be more useful. Do you expect me to continue to explain what you have not even tried to digest well enough to ask a specific question?


Mark de LA says
While I was re-editing the original I wanted to get klein bottle pic from a different group. I did so but when I tried to submit (edit) again it said I was not OK so I went back to the other tab & re-signed in & came back, but it objected but finally I got it to take but it had made a new item by then. wierd. It broke the old link & I fixed that.


Mark de LA says
seth 2014-03-24 10:58:20 17215
source: mark
Perhaps the solution of that dilemma is to show somehow that he understands or groks what I am saying & then expresses his difference within the context I have provided or shows how his own context relates to the one I use.
... ... yes i can do that .


Mark de LA says
seth 2014-03-24 11:13:39 17215
Strangely enough i have been using "huh?" either when i have no idea what you are saying ... and/or i expect anything i say to try to clarify it would lead us directly into rwg.  Then i began using "huh?" for just about the same thing but expressing my surprise that you suddenly started accusing me of doing RWG when i had no intention of arguing or of being right to your wrong.

If you prefer i can just go "I don't understand" ... or maybe express back to you what i do understand and ask you to clarify the rest.  Lot's more typing perhaps.  Bit more effort on my part.  But if that would work better for you, then i can try.

Mark de LA says
MR 2014-03-24 11:45:14 17215
MR 2014-03-24 11:31:45 17215
.. maybe there is a humorous perspective within the what? context (found on SOCL)






Seth says
Two situations could prevail:

(1) Thinking differently about something is not a problem ... it is part of the power of differentiation ... me thinks it is a good thing.   Thinking differently about something does not imply (at least for me) that the other is wrong and i am right ... no, it just means that we are approaching something from different histories, experiences and contexts.  surprise, surprise, things do look different from different perspectives.
(2) Being confused as to what the other is saying, is a problem ... it is bad ... and should be fixed wherever possible.  When this happens it is best to ask for clarification ... er, me thinks.

source: mark
If all he says in effect Me? I'm different! then the feeling "I wasted my time" shows up.
Well when i can see something from the same perspective as you, then i do say so ... that is a fact ... and it has happened here many many times.  When i cannot then one of the two situations above have obtained. 

Or i guess a third (3) alternative could happen and i could be an ass hole towards you.  I doubt that happens very often.

But me thinks any actual communication we do is well worth our time and effort. 



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