Ailenation

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i must admit that my attitude towards otherness is not always what i want it to be.  many times its vastness and utter difference from me intimidates me.  i do not feel a part of it ... to it i am alien. the alienation is so tangible that i can feel it.  examples are almost too embarrassing to record. i felt it keenly at this ... where the other members of our group could so easily bring in new members, but not me.  How to change this is, of course, the big question.

"by virtue of symmetry, others will feel towards me as just as much otherness as i feel towards them".   which is a strange way to express it ... saying it that way implies that if I feel no otherness towards them, they will feel no otherness towards me ... now that may be  somewhat true ... but i am not sure when it is true.  is there a way to express this without that implication?

it is easy, to take out the implication, and merely state the conditions which obtain
  • i know and feel others are different. 
  • They know and feel i am different. 
  • i don't care about them
  • i know they don't care about me

intellectually my attitude twards others is fine ... notwithstanding that in many cases in my heart i just don't care ... which must contribute to my long standing habitual acting alienated.  then too my expectation (and experience) that others just don't care about me must also contribute to my alienation. 


so now since this has been represented, albeit it mostly privately, will this very representation  ... change the matter ?

Tags

  1. otherness
  2. mask dance
  3. kabuki
  4. my struggle
  5. alien
  6. alienation
  7. spell check title
  8. masks
  9. personal

Comments


Seth says
the mask dance ? ... or this ?  ... not totally sure if this does relate.

Seth says
to read ... Marx theory of alienation

KatYa says
Yes, there is a mutuality about alienation, too. You alienate me, I alienate you. This actually gives me hope or should i say promise, in that the effort and attention and mindfulness towards others is a choice i can make, usually, which can lead to a greater response and mutuality. friendship. relationship. still, too much interaction, and some of us pull away, also a choice, and live in the luxury of quiet seclusion for a time.this, too, can be okay, if relieved of all the cultural messages attached to such behavior. thanks.

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