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Note to Self

Complaining is one of the ego’s favorite strategies for strengthening itself. Every complaint is a little story the mind makes up that you completely believe in. Whether you complain aloud or only in thought makes no difference.

Resentment is the emotion that goes with complaining and the mental labeling of people and adds even more energy to the ego.

Resentment means to feel bitter, indignant, aggrieved, or offended. You resent other people’s greed, their dishonesty, their lack of integrity, what they are doing, what they did in the past, what they said, what they failed to do, what they should or shouldn’t have done. The ego loves it.

Instead of overlooking unconsciousness in others, you make it into their identity.

Who is doing that? The unconsciousness in you, the ego.

Sometimes the “fault” that you perceive in another isn’t even there. It is a total misinterpretation, a projection by a mind conditioned to see enemies and to make itself right or superior. At other times, the fault may be there, but by focusing on it, sometimes to the exclusion of everything else, you amplify it.

And what you react to in another, you strengthen in yourself.

-- Eckhart Tolle

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Mark de LA says
choy 2016-01-11 07:36:39 [item 19509#41486]
See if you can catch yourself complaining, in either speech or thought, about a situation you find yourself in, what other people do or say, your surroundings, your life situation, even the weather. To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible; leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.

Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). The Power of Now (p. 82). New World Library. Kindle Edition. yes
nathan@fbi 2016-01-11 07:38:49 [item 19509#41487]
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choy 2016-01-11 07:43:27 [item 19509#41488]
ponderingInteresting! All in the NOW to complain – beating one’s breast
choy 2016-01-11 07:47:27 [item 19509#41489]
Ordinary unconsciousness is always linked in some way with denial of the Now. The Now, of course, also implies the here. Are you resisting your here and now? Some people would always rather be somewhere else. Their “here” is never good enough. Through self-observation, find out if that is the case in your life. Wherever you are, be there totally. If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally. If you want to take responsibility for your life, you must choose one of those three options, and you must choose now.

Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). The Power of Now (p. 82). New World Library. Kindle Edition. 
23:58 At any given time, we can probably think up some experience that’s better than the one we’re having. I can imagine other things to do right now, but I don’t actually want to be doing them since they won’t provide me with what I indeed want to have happen in life. Besides, even if I were to go out and play, I could still probably imagine something more fun than whatever I would be doing. I intend to work—end of story. Complaining about my choice and generating images of more exciting activities only creates pain. Enjoying my work while I work and my play while I play produces no separation and so no suffering.

Ralston, Peter (2010-08-31). The Book of Not Knowing: Exploring the True Nature of Self, Mind, and Consciousness (pp. 511-512). North Atlantic Books. Kindle Edition. 

Mark de LA says
choy 2016-01-11 07:57:25 [item 19509#41491]
FYI, Michael Hadley introduced me to Peter Ralston & we both sat in a contemplation intensive in Berkely  ~1989
nathan@fbi 2016-01-11 07:58:13 [item 19509#41492]
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… & just for amusement on knowing & not knowing a quote from the Tao via GW on knowing is 19490 (soon to be thought 19490thumbs up

Mark de LA says
P.S. thoughts really are beings!thumbs up

Mark de LA says
nathan 2016-01-11 08:30:53 [item 19509#41500]

"If we didn't feel like doing something we wouldn't do it. But we would set out to feel like doing it" ~ Abraham-Hicks


Peter’s method is in complete alignment with Abrham’s methods.

However, between the lines of Peter’s is the presumption that work is better than play … he is aligning with work, not because it is most exciting, but because he presumes it is better and in the doing he will get what he wants.

In truth work and play are neutral, neither is better or worse or will bring you anything you want more than the other. What you desire comes via your state of being and your alignment, never by what you do … except when what you are doing is aligning you with what you want.  
choy 2016-01-11 08:35:18 [item 19509#41504]
He is not making that assumption – read all 582 pages of BofNK – he’s speaking to an entire audience of people who have such distinctions & maybe not just true believers. thumbs up
nathan@fbi 2016-01-11 08:46:10 [item 19509#41506]
Yes I understand that, and actually, while talking to such a group of people, he would by necessity hold that vibration and so in a real sense, he does hold those assumptions at that moment. As Abraham and Bashar and many others say … you can only communicate with others when you and they are in a similar vibration … otherwise they will not be able to hear you even if they are able to physically hear your words. Teachers must be only a little higher in vibration than those they are teaching while they teach.

I am sure Peter has his own comfort zone vibration that is different than the vibration he teaches in. All of us do, even tiggers.
He has a different level of consciousness – some others do & some others don’t. loving ittuit

Mark de LA says
choy 2016-01-11 08:31:17 [item 19509#41501]
I almost like the idea of numbering one’s thoughts or a whole thoton of them -  PR does it in BofNKyes
nathan@fbi 2016-01-11 08:32:36 [item 19509#41502]
Yuck yuck and triple yuck! Never would I want to do or see that!!!!
choy 2016-01-11 08:46:04 [item 19509#41505]
A complaint? – then why thought 12345 – maybe they are not thoughts. loving it
nathan@fbi 2016-01-11 08:47:31 [item 19509#41507]
I still don’t think you know what that word means.
choy 2016-01-11 08:49:12 [item 19509#41509]
tuit
nathan@fbi 2016-01-11 08:52:29 [item 19509#41512]
It is interesting that you just read and transcribed nearly all that ever needs to be known about the idea of a complaint and what it is … yet you still can’t tell the difference between expression of preference and complaining … they are very different things.
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Seth says
choy 2016-01-11 08:31:17 [item 19509#41501]
I almost like the idea of numbering one’s thoughts or a whole thoton of them -  PR does it in BofNKyes
nathan@fbi 2016-01-11 08:32:36 [item 19509#41502]
Yuck yuck and triple yuck! Never would I want to do or see that!!!!
seth 2016-01-11 08:52:17 [item 19509#41511]
PR did it like it is done in the Bible … so he was writing scripture … not just writing his thoughts down in a book.  It does allow us to refer to some thought by chapter and verse.   Similar thing to me cooking a soup and putting some in the freezer and putting 19114 on the bag and thereby knowing via my thoughts here that it came from [title The Turkey Soup to end all such Soups 2015].  To be aware of some specific thing one has to name it.   We don’t do that with grains of sand or drops of water.  I do it or not, my choice. 
nathan@fbi 2016-01-11 08:56:53 [item 19509#41515]
Actually, we don’t. We don’t have to name things, that is just something our bookkeeping and logical mind does. We can simply follow what is exciting, read what is exciting, eat what looks exciting out of the freezer, and because it is what’s exciting, enjoy the hell out of all of what we are doing … and never know the name of anything or where it comes from or what is in it. We can even communicate very effectively with others without that knowing … we are only trained to do it the bookkeeping way because that’s how people have been doing it for a few thousand years, that’s all.

Not saying you need to change either, just saying, it is not at all necessary.
 
seth 2016-01-11 09:17:12 [item 19509#41516]
yep yes  … it is a logical book-keeping method.   logic the way it has developed in our culture requires identity … the stronger the identity … the stronger the logic.   i think we humans, myself included, take things more as they come … more indexical … we go from where we are and become aware of things by their relationships to some now. 

i’ve done quite a bit of thinking about specificity here and again.  loving people is fun … loving a specific person is divine … it’s just a thingey with me … something i “watch”  … i like to “watch” the difference. 

i put the word “watch” in quotes becuse if you just type it directly into this rte it dissapears … here this 
 
nathan@fbi 2016-01-11 09:21:58 [item 19509#41517]
  LOL … that’s really interesting … either a bug or a hidden feature in the character insert plugin looks like. Because it only happens when you press space or return at the end of the word.
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Seth says
choy 2016-01-11 08:31:17 [item 19509#41501]
I almost like the idea of numbering one’s thoughts or a whole thoton of them -  PR does it in BofNKyes
nathan@fbi 2016-01-11 08:32:36 [item 19509#41502]
Yuck yuck and triple yuck! Never would I want to do or see that!!!!
seth 2016-01-11 08:52:17 [item 19509#41511]
PR did it like it is done in the Bible … so he was writing scripture … not just writing his thoughts down in a book.  It does allow us to refer to some thought by chapter and verse.   Similar thing to me cooking a soup and putting some in the freezer and putting 19114 on the bag and thereby knowing via my thoughts here that it came from [title The Turkey Soup to end all such Soups 2015].  To be aware of some specific thing one has to name it.   We don’t do that with grains of sand or drops of water.  I do it or not, my choice. 
choy 2016-01-11 08:56:22 [item 19509#41514]
It is also like a tag so that people writing him can refer if they have questions instead of just a confusing paraphrase which is mostly their own. thumbs uploving it
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Seth says
seth 2016-01-11 09:31:12 [item 19509#41520]
Mark do you want an  emotie which basically means,  “i am through with this train of thought” ?  … something that might mean that more than tuit … which for me at least means that you are putting something on your plate to get to doing something about later. 

if so, maybe you could go look for a little yellow one that would work for that purpose and convey that emotion to more people and propose it here … huh?
nathan 2016-01-11 10:33:33 [item 19509#41532]
Is that what he meant with that? I honestly thought he was saying he would think about it more and let it soak into his vibration and maybe add more on it later … which is a very respectable attitude and I have given him space to let the magic work.

If he is just saying “I’m done with this” then of course I would write A LOT more!  And more after that.  
no …  mark had defined it quite clearly in a comment somwhere … then started using tuit to mean it.  in fb1 he had a special one that he was using for this purpose and it got lost in the shuffle.

Seth says
seth 2016-01-11 09:31:12 [item 19509#41520]
Mark do you want an  emotie which basically means,  “i am through with this train of thought” ?  … something that might mean that more than tuit … which for me at least means that you are putting something on your plate to get to doing something about later. 

if so, maybe you could go look for a little yellow one that would work for that purpose and convey that emotion to more people and propose it here … huh?
choy 2016-01-11 10:40:46 [item 19509#41533]
I defined it as “I am through with the conversation” elsewhere recently .  When I smell a RWG, automatic responses etc coming – for me – it is an exit to just drop the conversation no matter how excited I am about my response. If I could hide the conversation so that I never see it again in the news or river or under someone eIse’s ID I would do that. Anyway it is intended to be a graceful & permanent exit from a conversation. Some will continue anyway – such is their nature. Barring advanced consciousness such is the best I can do for my half of an rwg. If you have a suggestion for an emotey go for it.  My immediate flas was a 3 way stop light with the red light on. 
google stop lights & go for images perhaps this one (#1): 
nathan@fbi 2016-01-11 10:46:02 [item 19509#41534]
Cool. That is respectable. To honor that vibration correctly it needs to be a symbol that indicates the need for space. If it is a “stop” or “I’m done with this” type of symbol, it is a direct request for more of the same. The ego and the conscious minds do not have the right to make such determinations. But the higher mind, which is what you are talking about, the part of your mind that can see beyond the monkey thoughts, can and should choose to pause. An “I need a pause on this” kind of emoticon would be highly effective and not request more from the universe as a stop would.
choy 2016-01-11 11:00:07 [item 19509#41539]
Could use all 3 of them.  Maybe the first is yellow (time to backout) , the second is red. & perhaps at some later time after pausing the green light again. yes 
nathan@fbi 2016-01-11 11:04:32 [item 19509#41540]
I think the idea “time to back off” is still on the wrong side of the energy. It’s still a salute to the ego. What is actually needed is space around it (a very Tolle way to put it). Space around and bigger than the ego, so the ego can calm down. Things that represent space, ease, relaxing, contemplating, meditating, etc are in the right energy.
 
seth 2016-01-11 11:08:30 [item 19509#41542]
it needs to be a small emoty like the rest of them … but it could be a different color, if it wants to stand out.
nathan@fbi 2016-01-11 11:15:31 [item 19509#41545]


  
seth 2016-01-11 11:33:27 [item 19509#41549]

surprise Wow, i didn’t know nathan was a member of the fbi … now i’m going to go tattle that. 
 
choy 2016-01-11 11:37:03 [item 19509#41551]
If it doesn’t fit your emotey quals I can always copy the picture into the comment as punctuation – fret not!yes
well we want to make it easy for you to use …. but sure you can make just as big a splsh on a thing and take just as much effort as you want. 

me, when i am through with a thread or have no useful response for it a the moment, i feel no obligation to  respond to it at all … it is almost like a cat in a box there that i just don’t want to open to potentially kill the cat in it laugh … if i did, i would go into a universe that i expect i am not ready for yet.  but of course that is just me.  i want you to be able to easily express what you want to express.

 

Si says
I am just “nathan” in comments, not nathan@fbi (unless I am using the old penname system). We talked about this right? You will no longer see someone@something as a user, when you see that it will represent a user@place, not a penname. This was the design spec from last week.

Seth says
nathan 2016-01-11 11:50:27 [item 19509#41556]
See? I am using my unified account right now and you can see that I am just “nathan”  
yesyessmug  …. like i think i said … i grock that this is in flux

Mark de LA says
seth 2016-01-11 11:48:56 [item 19509#41554]

← does it reduce in size to your likeing?
This does not express anything to me. Describe it so that it means what I redefined tuit to mean or what I previously expressed this AM. Give me the ability to completely ignore a post & like I said I won’t need one. Otherwise their return over & over again or the party not me continues & is like a bully egging me on to fight; positive universes only notwithstanding. laughing

Seth says
seth 2016-01-11 11:48:56 [item 19509#41554]

← does it reduce in size to your likeing?
nathan 2016-01-11 11:52:59 [item 19509#41559]
I could make it do much better by photo-filtering it to increase the line sizes before reducing. It is a beautiful symbol for meditation or creating space or “sitting with it” that was designed by a friend of mine in Seattle, Michael Suzerris.
like  well i like it.  i might even use it myself ...despite that i usually don’t feel a need to express it at all.

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