Cognitive Dissonace Theory

In psychology, cognitive dissonance is the mental stress or discomfort experienced by an individual who holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values at the same time, performs an action that is contradictory to one or more beliefs, ideas, or values, or is confronted by new information that conflicts with existing beliefs, ideas, or values.[1][2]

Leon Festinger's theory of cognitive dissonance focuses on how humans strive for internal consistency. An individual who experiences inconsistency (dissonance) tends to become psychologically uncomfortable, and is motivated to try to reduce this dissonance—as well as actively avoid situations and information likely to increase it.[1]

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Seth says

Seth 2016-06-24 09:04:39 [item 21061#53386]

well the turbulence of cognitive dissonance  happens to me … i kid you not ← i am honestly telling you that. 

i believe it happens to almost all of us … but i believe most people will not honestly admit it, because admitting any weakness does not seem to be an  advantage to them socially. 

My approach is to resolve the dissonance by changing my story … that is what hopefully you mean by “study it a bit & get a grip” … is it?

 

Mark de LA 2016-06-24 09:33:57 [item 21061#53391]

Perhaps a bit more – there is rarely one answer-singularity .  Here is the suggestion for another from a point of view of Zen https://peterralstonblog.wordpress.com/2016/05/21/episode-1-enjoy-fear/ .  Instead of thrashing about with the unpleasant feeling study it as itself & pursue its function in creating your self & in your being. Instead of trying to get rid of it enjoy it for what it is.  It is perhaps a lot easier to do than encountering physical pain like a tooth ache. It might even lead to a grok of the RWG.

Seth 2016-06-24 09:43:50 [item 21061#53393]

that hangs together well over here … it is almost as if it were a special particular case of my more general description. 

except however,  “enjoying” the RWG,  is not just something that would effect your experience alone.  it also has ecological effects on all of us and the world of happening which we share … so it does not, imho, belong in the same category as a “tooth ache” which just effects you internally. 

Mark de LA 2016-06-24 09:53:01 [item 21061#53394]

perhaps the urge to contradict & oppose has better names than RWG – polarity mismatch is one from NLP: – asserting one’s Ego.  Now the game begins when you express your point-of-view in a conversation.  Clues abound particularly with the 3+ contributors in this space.  Not pinning it down but allowing any feeling, unpleasant or otherwise reveals more than running from it or trying to banish it.

Seth 2016-06-24 10:03:08 [item 21061#53395]

Well personally i am not concerned with what RWG “reveals” to a person who is “allowing” it … that is truly none of my business.   People here have the freedom to do what they will do.  That is a beautiful freedom which i deerly wish to preserve.

I am however concerned with the ecological effects of “allowing” this looping behavior to dominate our space … and that is exactly what has been happening.

Mark de LA 2016-06-24 10:05:27 [item 21061#53396]

polarity does provide mismatchers – doesn’t it .. maybe exmine the root of it, eh?

Seth 2016-06-24 10:08:48 [item 21061#53397]

← which seems to me to be driving into the loop again.   Did you miss an  exit?

Mark de LA 2016-06-24 10:12:28 [item 21061#53398]

+  = 

Mixed Emotions work in many & mysterious ways!

true

Si says

Mark de LA 2016-06-24 10:14:31 [item 21061#53399]

Maybe repair the forking problem 

Seth 2016-06-24 10:23:40 [item 21061#53403]

that may be in the works … i don’t know … see WIP at http://www.fastblogit.com/td.php  via thought 21047.

but that  http://thinking.domains has not been flourishing is primarily because it has yet to connect with what is happening socially … these technical problems are not what is holding it back.

Mark de LA 2016-06-24 10:30:58 [item 21061#53404]

How would you know – never really defined a niche for it  N has his own. I use it as digital memory.  There is nothing exclusive here that is easy to use.  Even Elaine doesn’t want to use it – much easier to use FB. 
 

Seth 2016-06-24 10:40:09 [item 21061#53405]

Well i know this because i feel it in my bones … it is what i am doing … for me it is what is happening (or not) that we can share.   No amount of talk will clarify that for anybody who is not doing it and not feeling it in their bones.   Fastblogit is a really a very hot intense and personal space if you do it … that may well turn people off .. even Elaine who does not want to sit in front of her computer so very much and prefers to interact more casually and playfully – and her friends are over there and not here.  This incessant RWG that we do works directly against positive play.  

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Seth says

Mark de LA 2016-06-24 10:14:31 [item 21061#53399]

Maybe repair the forking problem 

Seth 2016-06-24 10:23:40 [item 21061#53403]

that may be in the works … i don’t know … see WIP at http://www.fastblogit.com/td.php  via thought 21047.

but that  http://thinking.domains has not been flourishing is primarily because it has yet to connect with what is happening socially … these technical problems are not what is holding it back.

Mark de LA 2016-06-24 10:30:58 [item 21061#53404]

How would you know – never really defined a niche for it  N has his own. I use it as digital memory.  There is nothing exclusive here that is easy to use.  Even Elaine doesn’t want to use it – much easier to use FB. 
 

Seth 2016-06-24 10:40:09 [item 21061#53405]

Well i know this because i feel it in my bones … it is what i am doing … for me it is what is happening (or not) that we can share.   No amount of talk will clarify that for anybody who is not doing it and not feeling it in their bones.   Fastblogit is a really a very hot intense and personal space if you do it … that may well turn people off .. even Elaine who does not want to sit in front of her computer so very much and prefers to interact more casually and playfully – and her friends are over there and not here.  This incessant RWG that we do works directly against positive play.  

Mark de LA 2016-06-24 10:48:42 [item 21061#53408]

Yep, just illustrating it, blame rwg – stop it yourselves – N banished it & continued doing it. I have long ago said it is automatic ← which only started a chain or more of the same. Someone said it takes 2 to tango. If N & S stop – including making the RWG wrong – we’ll see what happens.  Exact example says more than the word. Hex #38 thwan:

KWUN tight lips the prize; Confucius' heard:-
Exact example says more than the word!

 

nathan 2016-06-24 11:09:50 [item 21061#53412]

Your experience and mine differ considerably. But if you look back you'll see that I predicted that. Even showed how you can RWG with yourself. Are you?

Mark de LA 2016-06-24 11:14:27 [item 21061#53414]

I never claimed there was anything wrong with the RWG – too zen for some! Others here dive right into the game. I am an example of me. My claim, proven out so far, is that it is rather automatic. See some of my previous comments above for other aspects.
 

nathan 2016-06-24 12:04:19 [item 21061#53416]

RWG is automatic. It is an exact example of LOA. It is a manifestation of like continuing to attract like. Manifestational momentum.

RWG is not forward moving. It keeps the participants circling in a continual loop. There is nothing “wrong” with it any more than there is anything wrong with anything. There are only experiences. The question is if that experience is useful and relevant to you. Is staying put in a continual negative energy loop what you want. I can think of a few corner cases where it could be of use, but in general is not useful to me, hence I have discontinued it.

Mark de LA 2016-06-24 12:13:46 [item 21061#53417]

Starting when? 

nathan 2016-06-24 14:45:46 [item 21061#53419]

If it pleases you to do so, you can notice that my statements do not say you are right, or you are wrong, or judge you in any way. They state the simple truth. My truth as it is in my reality. You may take that, and cycle with it, or not. That is entirely up to you and independent of me. Not all back and forth dialog is RWG and it is entirely possible for one participant in a dialog to experience a negatively regenerative loop while the other experiences moving along happily enjoying the expansion of positive new thoughts flowing through them.

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